When your heart lurches for the person you love, it's hard to let them go. Your mind relentlessly
embraced their thoughts. Every inch of you craves to have the person in your life. How much your logic and loved ones around you say that you deserve better, he/she isn't right for you. Your heart refuses to budge.
In those times you crush your self-respect, beg, cry or wallow. But once someone has made up their mind, honestly speaking nothing much is left. Even if they momentarily do, this cycle is going to repeat.
And each time your heart will bleed.
Breakups can be tough but remember that you're not alone in this. These 13 things to remember when you know he's not right for you, will help you navigate the emotional rollercoaster of heartbreak, and come out stronger on the other side.
Trust your gut:
If something feels off or you're constantly questioning the relationship, it's probably not healthy. Listen to your intuition and don't ignore red flags.
Even when you both have things in common. But, deep down inside, you have this nagging feeling that something just isn't right. That's when you have to trust your gut. Your gut is often right when it comes to matters of the heart. If you're feeling uneasy, it's probably best to listen to that little voice inside you.
You deserve happiness:
Remember that you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy and treats you with respect. Don't settle for less than you deserve.
And you deserve a relationship that makes you feel loved and appreciated. So, keep an open mind, and a positive attitude. Trust that the right person is out there for you. And when you find them, hold on tight, because happiness in a relationship is a truly beautiful thing.
Take time for yourself:
Going through a breakup can be tough, but it's also an opportunity to focus on yourself and figure out what you want in a relationship. Take some time to do things you love, hang out with friends and family, and focus on self-care.
Don't blame yourself:
It's easy to blame yourself for the relationship not working out, but it takes two people to make a relationship work. Don't beat yourself up over things that were out of your control.
"Maybe I wasn't good enough" or "I must have done something wrong". Instead of blaming yourself, try to focus on learning from the experience and moving forward in a positive direction. Remember that you deserve to be happy, and that includes being in a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
It's not the end of the world:
"It feels like my heart is broken" or "I don't know how I'll ever move on".
While these feelings are valid and normal, it's important to keep things in perspective. A breakup can feel like the end of the world, but it's not. The end of a relationship is not the end of your life, it's simply a change.
With time, you'll heal, you'll find new love, and you'll move forward. Just remember to take things one day at a time and to be kind to yourself.
Allow yourself to feel your emotions:
It's okay to feel sad, angry, hurt, frustrated and confused. Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions rather than trying to suppress or ignore them, but also make sure to set boundaries with yourself and not dwell on it for too long.
Writing your feelings in a journal how you're feeling, what you're thinking, and what you need to work through to give you a cathartic experience.
Talk to someone express your feelings and get a fresh perspective on the situation.
Do things that make you feel good, like taking a bath, meditating, or reading a book.
If you're feeling overwhelmed, don't be afraid to let the tears flow.
Learn from the experience:
Every relationship teaches us something, even if it doesn't work out. Reflect on the relationship and what you learned from it and use that knowledge to grow and improve in future relationships.
Think about what qualities are important to you in a partner and what kind of relationship you want to have. This can help you be more intentional in your future relationships.
Don't rush into a new relationship:
Give yourself time to heal and learn from the past relationship before jumping into something new.
Don't keep in touch:
It's okay to cut ties completely, it will help you to move on.
Focus on the present:
She tried hard to make sense of her emotions after her heart-wrenching breakup. Her heart was physically aching, and she couldn't stop thinking about her ex. She felt as if she was on a never-ending emotional rollercoaster, one minute fine and the next minute in tears.
Lying in bed at night, staring at the ceiling, replaying every moment of their relationship in her head. She would cry herself to sleep. She couldn't eat, couldn't focus on work, and felt as if her life has lost its meaning.
Don't waste your time dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Focus on the present moment and take things one day at a time.
Surround yourself with positive people:
Surround yourself with friends and family who love and support you.
Don't compare yourself to others:
Everyone moves on at their own pace. Don't compare yourself to others or feel like you should be further along than you are.
Believe in yourself:
Remember that you are strong, capable, and worthy of love. Believe in yourself and your ability to move on and find happiness.
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